"practice your worthiness of love" is probably one of the most important ideas i ever came across
it comes from this “I choose to stay present, to unlearn how to unlove, to love, and to practice my worthiness of it”
all people need love but no one is entitled to love. not even from themselves. its a complex idea, that you have to cultivate your inherent meritoriousness. you can not let it get rusty or grow weeds. everyday you must try to be gentle with soft things, you must tend to the ways you are good and brave and kind and velvet whiskey warm, and to the places where there is rot and sorrow and something you want to break.
you must be decent, actively. and a thing must be loved before it is lovable, so maybe also the first thing you have to do, the very first, it be worthy of your own love. and you get to decide what those rules for worthiness will be, because everyones rules will be different. you must decide yours and practice them before all the others.
and, i like the prayer of saint francis for all this. i dont know what i pray to every time. but
"make me an instrument of your peace"
it has to be active. an instrument is tangible, your heart is a muscle. you have to move to keep your muscles warm.